Dangers of a Closed Relationship
Friday, December 11th, 2009One of the great benefits of loving is how practical it is. Loving behavior makes a couple relationship go better. Staying open to your partner is an important part of loving — see the previous post. It should come as no surprise that being closed to your partner is an important failure and almost always makes the relationship go worse.
Imagine that you and your partner are having a disagreement, in which your partner is pushing his/her point of view and is not open to you. If you are like most of us, you escalate hoping that talking louder, faster or more urgently is going to get you heard. It rarely does, or if you do succeed — the other person “listens,“ but with an angry and closed mind.
If you are intent on getting in, you bang harder on the door when it doesn’t open.
Or you go away, and when this pattern happens often enough, you maybe don’t go back and knock any more.
