If You Want to Be More Loving — Learn to Stay Open to Your Partner
If you were intent on improving your ability to love, and you asked me for one essential tip — just one. Here is what I would tell you: Stay open to your partner. Nothing is more important.
Staying open means —
- Open to the other person’s point of view
- Open to his or her urgency, vulnerability, way of seeing things
- Open with understanding
- Open with compassion
- Open to letting your partner teach you — oh, that can be a tough one
Even when you are in conflict with your partner and angry, too —
even when you are so filled up with your own experience, your own point of view, your own urgency —
Leave enough empty room inside yourself so that you can —
Stay open to your partner.
Staying open is love in action.
